Reasons why you are not doing the things you want to do.

I grew up writing a to do list daily, often I do so a night before, highlighting the chores and items for the next day. At the end of a day, I’ll tick the ones I had done and shift the undone items to the next…and on like that. Although, for some reasons and prize I award myself for completing the items on my list in a day, I struggled to finish and mark all items , meaning no skip overs.

Guess what! at some point, I got tired and would end up not marking my list,sooner I realized I didn’t even keep a list anymore and you can assume the rest of it… some times, I didn’t just get to do them despite the fact that it ranks top in the list I created in my head. The question is, what went wrong?

I managed to come up with several reasons and interestingly, I found out, it is a real struggle out there and it wasn’t just me. We know the things we really want to do but somehow we aren’t getting them done. Well, some of the reasons why we are stuck in that locker are:

• Lack of Self motivation

Sometimes, we forget if we don’t do it, nobody would do it for us. While majority of persons await another to inspire them in ticking their lists, others simply spark a fire within and boom! It goes. That’s exactly what we all should be doing, you own it…come on get yourself up, talk to you and get to work. You always can do it, remind yourself daily.

A similar wear in this closet is wanting instant results and when we don’t get them or see prospects of that happening at a time soon, we don’t even want to try.

Honestly, the results are always there.

• Laziness

You could be lazy or you are simply lazy! Yeah, I said that…sounds harsh right? Often, this is an obvious truth that stares at us in the face. We wish the jobs could just get themselves done or someone offers to do it in our stead or the easiest way… “I’ll do it tomorrow” and then the morrow never comes. While I was treading that path, the words “Laziness is not a virtue” will always ring in my head and then I ask me, what’s there to lose if I actually do it now? Most times, there’s much more to lose for not doing it ‘now’.

• Fear

Oh my! There hasn’t been a bigger why for me than this, sometimes ago. I was just too scared of trying because I never liked to fail. Slowly, it was affecting my psyche and emotions. But how do we ever know we fail when we even never tried? Silly, isn’t it?

“There’s no better way to overcoming fear than facing it is outrightly.”

You’ll be amazed at how much you can do and be for yourself. Just try it, you have my word.

• Too many Ideas

We have our heads full of them and each time, it seems the latter one appears smarter and better than the former.

Recently, I was going to prepare a blog post for a site and I started writing. For each time I stopped to do something else, I wasn’t going back to that one as something new would have dropped and then it’s all like, why not write about this instead of that? Oops and ish, I have a new page with an entire different perception. Eventually, I ended up with about 10 different topics and ideas which I ended up not posting. I realized that, if I continued that way, I was soon going to write pages and will find none suitable for the site.

“Ideas are what they are and we might never just run out of them but, learn to pick it one at a time and actualize.”

Most often, others might not be needed or be developed to suit a better need.

• What others think

Knowing fully well there are no perfect beings, allowing ourselves to be vulnerable can be really scary. While we want to be loved and accepted for who we are and what we stand for, stand to do…there’s also the part where if people truly knew us , we could be rejected and thus, get hurt in the process.

What if they found out, you aren’t just good enough like you seem? What if you weren’t smart enough? What if my character betrays me? What if I can’t keep up with this project?… and there goes the list of ‘what ifs’.

We need to understand that doing the things we want to do with all honesty and the best we can offer drowns the worries of all the ‘what ifs’.

Also, realizing most of the struggles associated with what people will think about you and me are mutual to all of us- for we all have struggles.

The way I think it sometimes is, people are too busy trying to get off theirs, that they might hardly have time to notice what you think makes a big deal. It often,is not close to a deal not to talk to being big.

In conclusion, while we are set to do the things we want to do, take a minute and list your reasons. I know there could be a whole lot of them and you know them, don’t you?

Okay, Is it one, two, three…? Now, stop!

What is going to be your next excuse for not doing it? You know you can, that’s why you wanted to in the first place.

And when you start to do the things you want to do, remember to appreciate yourself and measure your progress from time to time.

When is when to start? You know I meant NOW!!!